It’s a fantasy, love

It’s been over three years since I dropped an L-bomb. I don’t know if that’s a long time or not – and how does one measure that anyway? – but that’s how long it’s been. And in all my years, I’ve only said that word to three men. The operative word being “said.” I’ve loved…

Unzip yourself

“Any place you never leave is a prison.” I don’t recall where I read the quote or who wrote it – but it has staying power. It’s been haunting me since I read it – making me think about all the ways in which I allow myself to be imprisoned. Back in my college days,…

No shadow for this ground hog

If you are what you do, then I am a Shadow Wrestler. That’s been my occupation since as long as I can remember and I am ready to tap out of the match. There’s bound to be a better use of my time. At any give moment, I’m likely to be thinking about what I’m…

To gain, you must let go

Release.  Since my last birthday, that’s been my mini-mantra. Somewhere along the way, life started to feel really heavy… like the joy had been sucked out with a straw. It’s true, I think of myself as a work to live person but words don’t mean jack if you’re not actually living that way.  So, when my friend, Wendy,…

Go Ahead. Try and Suck.

To be great at anything, one must take the risk of sucking. Those are words to live by and I’ve not been living by those words.  I did that thing I promised myself I wasn’t going to do if I started writing.  I stopped writing.  Sure, I’ve had a million ideas to share with whomever…

Channeling Your Inner Grit

Sticktoitiveness.  Determination.  Tenacity. Grit. Call it what you like, we all have it in us.  If we didn’t, we’d have given up a long time ago.  Instead, we all continue to wake up, put feet to floor, and doggedly pursue whatever it is we’ve each chosen to do.  And let’s be clear – we’re all…

The Universe is a Bluff-Caller

Yep.  That’s right.  The universe will make a liar out of you. She will test you. And you will do things you never thought possible.  This is what I’d tell the younger, more dogmatic, inexperienced version of me. Rewind the clock just one year and I’d have called you crazy if you told me I’d…